Minggu, 22 Oktober 2017

(014) Motivate Yourself: Bounce Your Thoughts

Posted by on Minggu, 22 Oktober 2017
Motivate Yourself
Motivate Yourself - If you’ve ever coached or worked with kids who play basketball, you know that most of them have a tendency to dribble withonly one hand—the one attached to their dominant arm. Whenyou notice a child doing this, you might call him aside and say,
Billy, you’re dribbling with just the one hand every time, and thedefender can easily defend you when you do that. Your optionsare cut off. You need to dribble with your other hand, too, so thathe never knows which way you’re going to go.
At this point Billy might say, “I can’t.” And you smile andsay, “What do you mean you can’t?
And Billy then shows you that when he dribbles with hissubdominant (weaker) hand and arm, the ball is all over theplace. So, in his mind, he can’t.“Billy,” you say. “It’s not that you can’t, it’s just that youhaven’t.”
Then you explain to Billy that his other hand can dribblejust as well if he is willing to practice. It’s just a matter of logging enough bounces. It’s the simple formation of a habit. Afterenough practice dribbling with his other hand, Billy will learnyou were right.
The same principle is true for reprogramming our owndominant habits of thinking. If our dominant thought habitis pessimistic, all we have to do is dribble with the other hand:
Tink optimistic thoughts more and more often until it feelsnatural.
If someone had asked me (before I started my journey toself-motivation that began with Napoleon Hill) why I didn’t tryto be more goal-oriented and optimistic, I would have said,“I can’t. It’s just not me. I wouldn’t know how.” But it wouldhave been more accurate for me to just say, “I haven’t.”
Tinking is just like bouncing the basketball. On the onehand, I can think pessimistically and build that side of me up(it’s just a matter of repeatedly bouncing those thoughts). Onthe other hand, I can think optimistically—one thought at atime—and build that habit up. Self-motivation is all a matterof how much in control you want to be.
The overall pattern won’t change after just a few positivebounces of the brain. If you’re a pessimist, your biocomputerhas been programmed heavily in that direction. But it doesn’ttake long before a new pattern can emerge. As a former pessimistmyself, I can tell you it really happens, slowly but surely. You dochange. One thought at a time. If you can bounce it one way,you can bounce it the other.